nadia addesi

A parentified child is a child who is forced to act like an adult when they are still in their childhood. They tend to take on adult responsibilities for themselves, their siblings and often their parents.
In this example, the child is taking on the role of a therapist for their parent which makes them believe they have an overall responsibility for their parents emotional wellbeing. The loss of a childhood for anyone can be traumatic.
Signs you were parentified as a child:
- Often told you were “mature for your age”
- Pulled into arguments between parents
- Relied on for emotional support from parents
- Spend a big chunk of time taking care of others in your family
- Often feeling responsible for the feelings and wellbeing of others
- Lack of boundaries with family members
- The family peacekeeper
- No time to be a child or engage in child-like activities
- As a child you felt anxiety, guilt & shame
Follow for my next video on this topic & more tips to help.

Reminder, for many families, parentification took place as a way to survive & stay safe. For example, language barriers, financial barriers, health issues and more ❤️
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3 years ago

If you are in a relationship where one partner wants to talk things out immediately, and the other person needs space to have a productive conversation later on, you are not alone. Many couples experience this, because our communication styles differ based on who we are. This can be a really challenging compromise, and in some cases results in either partner putting their needs aside to resolve the conflict, which unfortunately can lead to resentment and built up pain.

It’s a challenging cycle because the person trying to communicate in the moment, feels abandoned and alone. The person who needs space feels overwhelmed and controlled. It’s a cycle that doesn’t get resolved right away, and one that requires work.

One of my favourite tips I heard for people in relationships with someone they love is “always assume positive intent.” When you partner needs space, it’s because they want to calm down and have a productive conversation with you that leads to a resolution. When your partner wants to talk about it in the moment, it’s because they don’t enjoy the conflict and want to move on with you together. Both positive intentions, just communicated in different ways.

So, now what?
1. understand you partners reaction on a deeper level to build empathy. Maybe the person who needs space grew up in an environment where they got in trouble for having strong emotions, and they’re worried about expressing those in front o

3 years ago

Do you fear abandonment? If you struggle with object permanence I want you to remind yourself that things are not always black and white and two things can be true at once.

Remember:

Your partner can still love you even if they didn’t tell you today.
Your partner can be upset but still love you.
Time away doesn’t mean the end of a relationship.
Your friend may have not texted you today, but it doesn’t mean your relationship has changed.
Your fear of abandonment may come from past trauma, but in this moment you are safe

What other things can you tell yourself? ❤️
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3 years ago